There are different types of loss…
Loss of a friendship, dreams, trust, security, innocence, normality…
Loss of a loved one, a marriage, physical loss, emotional loss, spiritual loss…
I’ve been through many of these over the last few years…and through each loss I’ve realised that I have gone/or am still going through grief over each one.
The five stages of grief are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance.
“We can’t go over it, we can’t go under it, oh no! We’ve got to go through it!”
(We’re Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen & Helen Oxenbury)
Grief is a journey, in life you will suffer loss…but it is what you do with that loss, that determines whether you let the loss, help you to become lost…
In the past I have let my loss and grief get to me, and parts of me did become lost.
What was the turning point for me?
When I realised I had a choice. And only I could make that choice. No one else could make it for me.
The choice was to hold on to the loss and grief, or let it go, give it to my God, and hold onto hope & life.
I don’t want to be lost anymore, I want to find me again, or should I say the new me.
Because after going through loss & grief…you are changed…you are a different you, neither good nor bad, just different.
“When one door closes another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
– Alexander Graham Bell
Loss is a teachable moment in our lives…what are we going to learn from it?